It’s been a couple of weeks since I returned from my trip to Copenhagen. My vacations typically take me into challenging mountain terrains, usually at altitude. With challenges come inspiration and wisdom. I am a firm believer and avid practitioner of Kaplan’s Attention Restoration Theory (ART.) It proposes that time in nature helps improve mental focus. I add in some physical exertion, and my time spent in nature is not only enjoyable, but leads to new ideas and insights about myself and the world. It is always a source of motivation, driving me to tackle new challenges.
So, I was debating whether a leisurely trip is worthy of a blog post. But as I find myself diving into the new year with full force, I keep reminiscing on the Danish tradition of Hygge. I couldn’t find a good translation of the word, but as a concept it means finding comfort and contentment, especially in the long, dark winter months. It’s about enjoying the simple things in life.
We don’t really have harsh winters here in Northern California, and right now we are concerned about the wild fires tearing through Southern California. I just spent the weekend in Los Angeles, and the juxtaposition of fire and ice in my recent personal experiences, got me thinking about Robert Frost’s poem “Fire and Ice.” Frost uses fire as a metaphor for desire and ice for hate, both very human emotions, and very real. The poem really strikes a chord for me right now.
Putting aside the waves of hatred and violence rippling through the world, and ice and fire as being potential sources of world destruction, January is the month that can brings out emotions of desire and hate. It is the time of goal-setting, of desiring better things and wanting to improve our current situation. As we are inspired by a compelling vision for change, we must guard against ambition bringing out feelings of self-doubt and self-hate. When goals are driven by self-hatred it can be a destructive force. However, when desire is fused with contentment it can drive creation and growth. If we dig deep to connect with our truest wants and needs, overcoming the desire to please, impress, or compete with others, we can live life to the fullest, true to self. Instead of engaging in self-destructive behaviors in the pursuit of ambitious goals, we are better off when we engage in self-care behaviors, embracing a more nurturing approach to personal growth through contentment and flourishing.
If we are not careful, ambition can be like insatiable hunger. The flame of desire and the iciness of hate can destroy. The antidote is hygge. Contentment isn’t about settling nor complacency. It’s about recognizing and appreciating what we already have. Contentment is the version of desire and ambition driven by self-acceptance while reaching further into potential and possibilities. Only through striking a balance between desire and contentment, we can find genuine fulfillment as we step forward toward a better future. This January, push yourself to achieve something you yearn for, while you take the time to appreciate all that you already have.
Here's how to Hygge Your Life & Your Goals:
Make time to be in peaceful spaces to have moments in your day to relax and unwind.
Spend time with people you love and who uplift you.
Be present in the moment without getting caught in regrets of the past or worries about the future.
Be kind to yourself embracing your imperfections and accepting the things you cannot change.
Live with appreciation and gratitude for all that you have, both the big and small things.
Sending strength and healing thoughts to all in the fire’s path. My heart is with all who are in harm’s way.
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